Tuesday, December 18, 2018

INBEDWITH SHAUNA Episode 15 Show Notes


Boondox - Freak Bitch

Women Explain The Appeal of Bad Boys

Do you have that one person that sends your stomach into knots and you heart pounding into your ears? The one that gets in you head and haunts your every thought to the point your sure madness is just around the corner. The mere mention of their name registers somewhere deep inside you, forcing an almost impossible to hide guilty grin. The one you pushed away but is still right there tempting and tugging at everything you know is wrong. This is the one we don't speak of. And his name is..

Dual Mating Strategies
Long term, women are seeking good providers, caring fathers, and protectors to help raise children. Men are looking for nurturing mothers capable of having as many children as possible.
Short term, women are looking for good genes to pass on. A mans character is of little concern. Men are also looking for genes but not genes they with to squire. They are more concerned with passing on their own to any willing participant.

Female Dual Sexuality
This differs because it focuses on the female ovulatory cycle. It has been shown that during the time women are not ovulating, they are focused more on long term relationship goals, commitment, and stability. However, when a woman is ovulating they are more focused on sexual desire, orgasm, and short term relationships. Women are more likely to have affairs and engage in overall risky behavior during ovulation.

It has also been shown that women taking hormonal birth control lose this duality and that women who are not ovulating will choose mates with a sent close to that of family members while those who are not taking birth control choose mates with a sent very genetically different than their own. This leads to the thought that taking birth control for years before getting married could lead to less chemical and genetic comparability after marriage and after going off the pill. 

Psychology Today - Why you might consider going off the pill before tying the knot

Female Psychological Desire Cues
(Source A Billion Wicked Thoughts) available here

Often times, the bad boy embodies most or all of the desire cues that women crave psychologically.

Alpha Male - Strong, powerful, with high status. 
Emotion - A hard to get to but still soft center.
Popularity - Wanted by other females or already taken by one.
Irritability - A strong desire for the woman above all others.

Radical Honesty
Because bad boys have options as far as other women go, he doesn't feel the fear of losing a woman if he is honest. The nice guy on the other hand doesn't tend to have as many female options and therefore lies in fear of losing the one he has. Women admire and appreciate honesty when we can get it but the above mentioned popularity cue also holds us in. We could get offended by the truth and walk away but with male who has other options, this is less likely what we will want to do.

Desire + Obstacle = Passion
Most great passions come from a physical attraction with a obstacle thrown in. Bad boys are often obstacles themselves, seeming emotionally unavailable making them a challenge or obstacle. There can be a myriad of other obstacles a wife perhaps, distance, religion, think Romeo and Juliet. The greatest love story of all time is created around this formula.      

Variable Interval Reward System
Bad boys are unpredictable, they come and go on a whim, probably because they are busy with other ladies. This great passion they create by being unattainable makes them irresistible  

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