Tuesday, October 23, 2018

IN BED WITH SHAUNA - Episode 9 Show Notes

In Bed With Shauna Episode 9


A few facts about High School Sweethearts
Info from the article 21 High School Sweethearts Marriage Statistics 
  • High school sweethearts that get married while still teenagers only have a 54% chance of having their marriage last 10 years.
  • High school sweethearts that wait until at least the age of 25 to get married have a 10 year success rate of 78%.
  • Only 19% of people who marry their high school sweethearts attend college.
  • 14% of couples had met in school.
  • The most likely age demographic for someone to marry their high school sweetheart is in the 18-27 age group.
  •  People who break up with their high school sweetheart and marry someone else are more likely to have an affair with the their sweetheart if they are able to reconnect.
  • The internet makes connecting or reconnecting with a high school sweetheart easier than ever before.
  • People who search out lost loves when they didn’t marry their high school sweetheart tend to come from homes where one parent was an alcoholic.
I think there is something to be said for marrying your high school sweetheart and even the person you lost your virginity to If you have only been with one person, being with someone new can have an element of fear that wouldn't be there had you been with other people. BUT... you have to go into this realizing that human nature craves novelty. If you are going to stay with the same person you have to take this into account and put effort into keeping things exciting and fresh. This is work it will not just come naturally. 

I would highly recommend leaving each other for college as a test to your relationship and a chance for you to grow yourself outside of the relationship. If you give up things for yourself when you are young this could easily turn into resentment as you grow older. Go off explore yourself and then come back to create a relationship of two whole people rather than two halves.

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Wednesday, October 17, 2018

IN BED WITH SHAUNA - Episode 8 Show Notes

In Bed With Shauna Episode 8 - The Darkness


"All the love gone bad turned my world to black tattooed all I see all that I am all I'll be".
Black - Pearl Jam 1992

He whom we refer to as The Darkness, ironically enough, introduced me to this song in 1992. I didn't know at the time how that one line would be so true in regards to my relationship with him and sit tightly in my heart for the rest of my life.

When you're a young woman, you're coming into your sexuality and trying to figure out what being a woman means and what part your sexuality will play in your character as a person. If you choose to save yourself for marriage, if you decide to be adventurous and be sexually promiscuous, if you choose to only have sex with one or two steady boyfriends in high school, this decision will shape your sexuality for the future and in turn who you project to the world and what they world thinks of you as not only a woman, but as a person.

There are men out there that will convince you that you need them and then use you not only for their own personal pleasure but as a toy, a game piece to get what they want in life. It's not that you're ignorant and don't see this happening. It's that you've been manipulated to believe that it doesn't matter. You need that person so much that any price is worth paying to keep them close.

Eventually, hopefully, you realize they aren't what you think they are, that they add nothing to you and only take away. Has hard as it is to believe at the time, there are others out there that can give you the feeling of acceptance you crave without mentally destroying you.

Shane Dawson Video mentioned in the beginning of this episode

Additional Songs

Limp Bizkit - Re-Arrange
Stand - Outside
Floater - Pet
Apocalyptica - I Don't Care


Here rests the bones of what was once my shows notes that I spent a week outlining and a whole day writing... RIP Hybristophilia Intro...