Sunday, July 29, 2018

INBEDWITH SHAUNA - Episode 2 - Show Notes

In Bed With Shauna - Episode 2

Masturbatory Rag Doll
Should a wife submit to her husband physically at his whim? Sitting in Church listening to the pastor explain that God made sex and when you are married, you a no longer one flesh made me wonder is that really an okay way of thinking? Could that actually be damaging? It sure isn't a safeguard against infidelity.

When Your Rebound Bonces
Many people seek the comfort of another directly after a breakup. Doing this replaces devastating and sometimes crippling feelings with NRE (new relationship energy). What better way to get over a broken heart than a cocktail of dopamine, adrenaline, norepinephrine, and multiple orgasms?
But what happens when you fall comfortably into these safe new arms and then they drop you?

As I was listening to a podcast episode of Guys we Fucked, I was reminded of that danger and also reminded of why I feel like I'm drifting aimlessly with nothing to power me in any direction. It's stupid and fucked up but it's the truth.

I've always said that a woman should have another "distraction" in her back pocket just in case she needs to pull him out for emotional safety after a breakup which is still something I believe is helpful. But there is a risk with this method. It's almost like you have to continue to replace that backup because as soon as you are alone, you will be hit with ALL of the emotion you have been shelving.

The Full Episode of Guys We F****d

Everyone Has Herpes
I'd love it if everyone could work on destroying the stigma around herpes. Make sure that one someone uses the words "cold sore", "chicken pox", "shingles", replace it with herpes.

Did you know: 

You are less likely to get herpes from someone who knows they have it, takes anitvirals, and uses protection than you are from someone who hasn't been tested?

Tests are the most accurate when there is a open lesion to test.

Most of the time when you go to the doctor and ask for a STD/STI test, you are not tested for Herpes. It is that the psychological damage of the diagnosis is more harmful than the virus itself because of the stigma. 

Some confident people are starting to put their STI positive status in their only dating profile.

A great TEDTalk about fighting the herpes stigma/

INBEDWITH SHAUNA- Episode 3 - Show Notes

In Bed With Shauna Episode 3
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This episode was very personal so I'm not going to write much here or link to much either.

Here is a few posts about my marriage...

A MonogamISH Marriage - What It's Really Like
When We Fight

And here are a few things I wrote about the break up that won't end.

In Joy and Sorrow 
When I wasn't Looking
He Loves Her, He Loves Her Not
My Own Truth

You can find me on
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Twitter @xshaunawilliams

Sunday, July 15, 2018

INBEDWITH SHAUNA - Episode 1 Show Notes


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Hey Bitches, welcome to my new podcast. I have no clue how to do this but you have to learn somehow. So here we go...

I've been completely obsessed with The Joe Rogan Experience podcast over the last few months. This guy just sits in his studio and had people from all over come and talk to him for hours. I want that job but with a sexual twist to it of course.

The name In Bed With Shauna come from the Madonna movie Truth or Dare. The movie's European release was titled In Bed With Madonna. As a huge Madonna fan, the name has always stuck with me. I also got to thinking that would be a good name since I am actually sitting in bed recording the podcast and would eventually like it if I could have friends come over and sit in bed and have conversations. Is that weird? There's also a sexual tone to it that of course I like not to mention another use of the phrase "In Bed With The Enemy" or That company is "in bed" with that company. There's a lot of people I want to be in bed with. Figuratively of course. (for the most part) 

So I turned 40. I'm not going to get into that here. If you want to know how I feel about it you can read my previous post.

The crazy mess of the non binary transgender: 

Gender  -
a : sex the feminine gender

b the behavioral, cultural, or psychological traits typically associated with one sex

Sex --
either of the two major forms of individuals that occur in many species and that are distinguished respectively as female or male especially on the basis of their reproductive organs and structures

the sum of the structural, functional, and behavioral characteristics of organisms that are involved in reproduction marked by the union of gametes and that distinguish males and females
Source - 

Why do we say gender not sex? Because a long time ago people were very uptight and didn't think it was appropriate to say sex let a lone write it on forms.

Gender Dysphoria

Gender dysphoria involves a conflict between a person's physical or assigned gender and the gender with which he/she/they identify. People with gender dysphoria may be very uncomfortable with the gender they were assigned, sometimes described as being uncomfortable with their body (particularly developments during puberty) or being uncomfortable with the expected roles of their assigned gender.
Gender As A Social Construct 
Transgender woman and YouTuber Blair White explains this better than I can. Watch her video.

If you don't believe me that this is our of control, take a look at this:

What Each of Facebook’s 51 New Gender Options Means

Saturday, July 7, 2018

WTF I'm 40? Welcome To My Midlife

In a week I’ll be 40. I can’t even believe that as I’m typing it. Not only will I be turning this dreaded old age but I’m also unemployed and my youngest child, my only natural child will be entering high school in a month.

When you are young you think that by 30 you will have a car, a house, a career, kids, spouse, you’ll have finished everything you are supposed to do and have life basically figured out. At least the big stuff. But here I am half way through my life for the most part and I have no fucking clue what I’m doing.

Growing up I thought I’d move to L.A., be a nurse, have a husband and maybe 4 kids. But here I am, stuck in the same depressing, good for nothing town I grew up in, with no job and three kids, two of which I didn'tgive birth to. It’s like I blinked and ran out of time. My chances to have another child are pretty much gone without me ever consenting to such tragedy and I will soon be alone.

What is even happening? I never agreed to any of this. I’m not prepared for any of it. I mean let’s say I’m half way done with my life. That doesn’t even mean I have another 40 years. Really, as a woman, I have about 10 to 20 years before I’m considered totally worthless. Completely irrelevant and invisible.

All my life I remember thinking wow I don’t want to be old. Well at least I’m only (blank) I don’t have to worry about that yet. Thank God! Now I just think shit, I’m here. And if I’m already freaking out about my body decaying around me, how will I feel at 70?

OMG menopause! How much longer until that death comes knocking at my door? 10, 15 years? And then I’ll gain more wait and probably grow a mustache. WTF there is nothing I can do to stop this.

Time… time is an asshole.


Here rests the bones of what was once my shows notes that I spent a week outlining and a whole day writing... RIP Hybristophilia Intro...