In doing research on sexuality inside Christianity, I’ve come across a lot of information on why masturbation is sinful. I would like to take a moment to correct this misinformation as this outlook is not only unhelpful but harmful to a person’s sexuality.
Is Masturbation Lust Focused?
It can be. But if this is something you personally feel is wrong, it doesn’t have to be. You do not need to fantasize about another person or situation to have an orgasm. You can simply enjoy the sensation.
Is Masturbation Selfish?
I’ve heard this a lot. Your body is a temple is it not? Would you consider scratching an itch selfish? How about brushing your hair or exercising? These are all activities that you don’t need to do in order to survive but are part of taking care of your temple that is your human body. We have the desire to masturbate for a reason and orgasms have many health benefits.
Here are just a few:
Is Masturbation Addictive?
Anything that produces the release of dopamine can become an addiction but that doesn’t mean we shouldn’t do them. Dopamine is our brain’s way of rewarding us for positive behavior. Obviously like anything, this has the potential to be abused but that doesn’t make it bad in general. Everything in moderation!
This is also the question that inevitably leads to questions about porn addiction. I have left that out for now because porn is it’s own topic for another day. But it’s coming soon.
Will Masturbating Make Me Not Want Sex From My Partner?
Some people find this to be true but this can be for many other reasons including lack of sexual education. In fact, masturbating is a way to get to know your own body. How on earth are you going to communicate to your partner what feels good if you don’t know yourself. The female anatomy can be very confusing to men and anything you can do to help them navigate will be much appreciated I assure you. I can’t even begin to tell you the number of women who have told me that they don’t even know what their vulva looks like. Hell, they don’t even know their vagina is called a vulva.
Ladies I implore you, take out a mirror and take a look. If nothing else, just for your own health. It’s important to know what everything looks like in a normal state so that you can identify when something isn’t normal.
Lastly, I would like to just touch on sexuality being something that exists only inside marriage and is something that is not separate. This bothers me because I feel it perpetuates the idea that a woman is not her own person, that she is property of her husband, that her sexuality is something he owns and is something that needs to be controlled. We are not living in ancient times. Sexuality is something that is unique to each person. And if you hold a world view in which you believe in God, this sexual part of our nature was created by that God and is beautiful. Man makes it something it is not. Remember Adam and Eve were running around being fruitful and multiplying whilst naked. Shame belongs on hurting others not on pleasing ourselves.