When I realized that jealousy is rooted in fear, I found it immensely helpful in figuring out the source of my emotions. Recently I’ve been asking myself what am I afraid of? Why am I insecure in this particular situation.
In each relationship I have or have had, I’ve felt secure. I felt like my partner for lack of a better label, had something with me they couldn’t have with someone else. But I realized today that in this relationship, I’m insecure because someone else can give him something I cant. A normal monogamous commitment. But I find comfort in the knowledge that those commitments break. And when they do, I’ll still be here.