Tuesday, December 18, 2018
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Women Explain The Appeal of Bad Boys
Do you have that one person that sends your stomach into knots and you heart pounding into your ears? The one that gets in you head and haunts your every thought to the point your sure madness is just around the corner. The mere mention of their name registers somewhere deep inside you, forcing an almost impossible to hide guilty grin. The one you pushed away but is still right there tempting and tugging at everything you know is wrong. This is the one we don't speak of. And his name is..
Dual Mating Strategies
Long term, women are seeking good providers, caring fathers, and protectors to help raise children. Men are looking for nurturing mothers capable of having as many children as possible.
Short term, women are looking for good genes to pass on. A mans character is of little concern. Men are also looking for genes but not genes they with to squire. They are more concerned with passing on their own to any willing participant.
Female Dual Sexuality
This differs because it focuses on the female ovulatory cycle. It has been shown that during the time women are not ovulating, they are focused more on long term relationship goals, commitment, and stability. However, when a woman is ovulating they are more focused on sexual desire, orgasm, and short term relationships. Women are more likely to have affairs and engage in overall risky behavior during ovulation.
It has also been shown that women taking hormonal birth control lose this duality and that women who are not ovulating will choose mates with a sent close to that of family members while those who are not taking birth control choose mates with a sent very genetically different than their own. This leads to the thought that taking birth control for years before getting married could lead to less chemical and genetic comparability after marriage and after going off the pill.
Psychology Today - Why you might consider going off the pill before tying the knot
Female Psychological Desire Cues
(Source A Billion Wicked Thoughts) available here
Often times, the bad boy embodies most or all of the desire cues that women crave psychologically.
Alpha Male - Strong, powerful, with high status.
Emotion - A hard to get to but still soft center.
Popularity - Wanted by other females or already taken by one.
Irritability - A strong desire for the woman above all others.
Because bad boys have options as far as other women go, he doesn't feel the fear of losing a woman if he is honest. The nice guy on the other hand doesn't tend to have as many female options and therefore lies in fear of losing the one he has. Women admire and appreciate honesty when we can get it but the above mentioned popularity cue also holds us in. We could get offended by the truth and walk away but with male who has other options, this is less likely what we will want to do.
Desire + Obstacle = Passion
Most great passions come from a physical attraction with a obstacle thrown in. Bad boys are often obstacles themselves, seeming emotionally unavailable making them a challenge or obstacle. There can be a myriad of other obstacles a wife perhaps, distance, religion, think Romeo and Juliet. The greatest love story of all time is created around this formula.
Variable Interval Reward System
Bad boys are unpredictable, they come and go on a whim, probably because they are busy with other ladies. This great passion they create by being unattainable makes them irresistible
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Tuesday, December 4, 2018
In Bed With Shauna Episode 14 - The Clinton Affair
Tuesday, November 20, 2018
In this episode I talk about getting even with someone for cheating on you and answer your questions about premature ejaculation and fetishes.
If you need a little help in delaying your orgasm and edging or doubling up on condoms isn't working for you, there is a spray that comes highly recommended called Promescent. It desensitizes you but doesn't transfer to your partner. If you try it out, let me know if it helps.
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Tuesday, November 13, 2018
In Bed With Shauna Episode 12 - Open But Not Perfect
Hello everyone welcome to episode 12 of In Bed With Shauna. In this episode I talk about masques for your muff, Monica Lewinsky, the stigma of the not so perfect open relationship, and I answer some of your questions.
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Tuesday, November 6, 2018
Episode 11 - Don't Fake It!
In this episode I talk about sex workers, why not kissing your hookup can be a good thing, and faking orgasms. Below are links to a video of an ex porn star talking against the industry and about how the medical clinics these performers have to use can be shadey. I've also included a link to an article about the clinic sited in the video. Please go check out Lushious' Youtube channel, the Hustler podcast and Spencer Tunick.
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Tuesday, October 30, 2018
Tuesday, October 23, 2018
In Bed With Shauna Episode 9
A few facts about High School Sweethearts
Info from the article 21 High School Sweethearts Marriage Statistics
Wednesday, October 17, 2018
In Bed With Shauna Episode 8 - The Darknessanchor.fm/inbedwithshauna
"All the love gone bad turned my world to black tattooed all I see all that I am all I'll be".
Black - Pearl Jam 1992
He whom we refer to as The Darkness, ironically enough, introduced me to this song in 1992. I didn't know at the time how that one line would be so true in regards to my relationship with him and sit tightly in my heart for the rest of my life.
When you're a young woman, you're coming into your sexuality and trying to figure out what being a woman means and what part your sexuality will play in your character as a person. If you choose to save yourself for marriage, if you decide to be adventurous and be sexually promiscuous, if you choose to only have sex with one or two steady boyfriends in high school, this decision will shape your sexuality for the future and in turn who you project to the world and what they world thinks of you as not only a woman, but as a person.
There are men out there that will convince you that you need them and then use you not only for their own personal pleasure but as a toy, a game piece to get what they want in life. It's not that you're ignorant and don't see this happening. It's that you've been manipulated to believe that it doesn't matter. You need that person so much that any price is worth paying to keep them close.
Eventually, hopefully, you realize they aren't what you think they are, that they add nothing to you and only take away. Has hard as it is to believe at the time, there are others out there that can give you the feeling of acceptance you crave without mentally destroying you.
Shane Dawson Video mentioned in the beginning of this episode
Limp Bizkit - Re-Arrange
Stand - Outside
Floater - Pet
Apocalyptica - I Don't Care
Saturday, October 13, 2018
In Bed With Shauna - Episode 7
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UNTRUE: Why Nearly Everything We Believe About Women, Lust, and Infidelity is Wrong and How the New Science Can Set Us Free
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Tuesday, October 2, 2018
Saturday, September 29, 2018
There is something special that happens with men in a sexual scenario that is unique to how he is in any other situation in his life. There is a different look in his eyes, a different tone in his voice, something that lays beneath the persona and ego he has created over his life comes to the surface and can only be experienced in those moments. It's raw and so deeply real that it's intoxicating to me. This is also something that can fade in a long term relationship. It's odd that the less you know a man, the more real his desire is with you. This is why men ask prostitutes for things they would never ask their wives for. It's that space that fascinates me. The space where they feel safe from judgment and their own ego. I see a man and I think about that and wonder who is he in that space?
This wonder for me trumps physical attraction on most occasions. I'm more interested in the mind of the man. For example, last night I had a dream about Neil deGrasse Tyson. For those that are not total science nerds like me, he is a astrophysicist and the host of several shows and a podcast. For some reason I dreamed I was going to a hotel with him and today when I think about it, yeah I would be interested to see him in that space.
Another man that gets my sexual curiosity going is Elon Musk.
Joe Rogan, I feel would be someone it would be hard to break his fidelity. I've learned that men with very strong mental strength cheat less. Men who meditate, practice martial artists, etc. Men with a good amount of will power and self discipline. So I wonder, would it be difficult to break him sexually? I know that's rude to poor Joe's wife but it's how my brain works. I wonder if he's very primal in that space, rough rather than gentile.
Monday, September 17, 2018
Monday, July 30, 2018
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The Hidden Teachings of Jesus Video
Joe Rogan The Satanic Spiritual Deceiver EXPOSED! The Blind Leading The Blind
Sunday, July 29, 2018
In Bed With Shauna Episode 3
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This episode was very personal so I'm not going to write much here or link to much either.
Here is a few posts about my marriage...
A MonogamISH Marriage - What It's Really Like
When We Fight
And here are a few things I wrote about the break up that won't end.
In Joy and Sorrow
When I wasn't Looking
He Loves Her, He Loves Her Not
My Own Truth
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Sunday, July 15, 2018
Listen at anchor.fm/inbedwithshauna or get the Anchor AppHey Bitches, welcome to my new podcast. I have no clue how to do this but you have to learn somehow. So here we go...
I've been completely obsessed with The Joe Rogan Experience podcast over the last few months. This guy just sits in his studio and had people from all over come and talk to him for hours. I want that job but with a sexual twist to it of course.
The name In Bed With Shauna come from the Madonna movie Truth or Dare. The movie's European release was titled In Bed With Madonna. As a huge Madonna fan, the name has always stuck with me. I also got to thinking that would be a good name since I am actually sitting in bed recording the podcast and would eventually like it if I could have friends come over and sit in bed and have conversations. Is that weird? There's also a sexual tone to it that of course I like not to mention another use of the phrase "In Bed With The Enemy" or That company is "in bed" with that company. There's a lot of people I want to be in bed with. Figuratively of course. (for the most part)
Why do we say gender not sex? Because a long time ago people were very uptight and didn't think it was appropriate to say sex let a lone write it on forms.
Transgender woman and YouTuber Blair White explains this better than I can. Watch her video.
Saturday, July 7, 2018
Wednesday, February 21, 2018
Wednesday, February 7, 2018
Recently I came across a TED Talk by Peggy Orenstein. This talk focused on the lack of education and attention put on female sexual pleasure. Ms. Orenstein points out that in Sex Ed we are shown a photo of the "female reproductive system" which although it does show reproductive organs, isn't exactly complete. 🤔
Sex Ed in the U.S. is focused on birth control, STIs and inappropriately timed male erections that girls aught not to cause by simply wearing form fitting clothes or exposing a bra strap. What is this teaching our kids?
I recently got my teen son's sex ed class itinerary showing parents what will and will not be covered in class. What would NOT be covered included consent, sexual identity, and gender identity. Sexual pleasure wasn't even on the menu. This is not sex education. This is reproductive education.
Girls, I beg you, please do your own research take out a mirror and look at your vulva. Know your anatomy, what it does and more importnatly know how it feels. It's impossible to tell your partner how to please you if you don't know yourself.
Please know that because this world has historically been run by men, female sexuality has been grossly overlooked. Educate yourselves and your daughters about the importance of female pleasure and that it's OK to ask for it. If it took women 1 minute to climax and men 20, I can assure you that what (or who) went down in a typical "hook up" would be VERY different. 😂
Sunday, January 28, 2018
Sunday, January 21, 2018
These are just some of the question I have on this topic and I hope everyone realizes that these pertain to consenting adult relationships. Read through and give me your answers or if you have your own questions, leave them down in the comments..
- Why is it that I feel like I’m the only Christian that embraces her sexuality and does not understand the true reasoning behind sexual “sin”?
- Why when I Google “Sexual Christian” are the results videos, books, articles, and programs all aimed at helping me overcome this terrible sinful nature of my sexual desire?
- According to Haslow’s Hierarchy of Needs, basic human physiological needs include Air, Food, Water, Shelter, Sleep, and Sex. Our bodies are designed to crave sex. Why would God make our bodies in this way and then punish us for acting in accordance?
- Why are men’s minds made to seek sexual novelty if it’s bad to do so?
- Why aren’t we naturally monogamous?
- Why does the typical couple only stay “in love” neuro chemically speaking for 2 to 4 years, just long enough to raise a baby into toddlerhood?
- Why do we become aware of our sexuality at such an early age? So that we can marry young and have offspring? Why does this all happen before our prefrontal cortex (responsible for decision making) is fully formed?
- Why would God create our minds and bodies to work in direct conflict with his wishes?
- Why unlike other sins, is sex good for us? Frequent orgasms and close human contact have many health benefits for men and women.
- If we are all God’s children and are made in his image, why are some people born with a sexual orientation pleasing to God and others born locked into a sexual orientation that will earn them life long condemnation just for wanting the same love others have?
If anyone cares to enlighten me please leave a comment and lets discuss.
Friday, January 19, 2018
In doing research on sexuality inside Christianity, I’ve come across a lot of information on why masturbation is sinful. I would like to take a moment to correct this misinformation as this outlook is not only unhelpful but harmful to a person’s sexuality.
Is Masturbation Lust Focused?
Is Masturbation Selfish?
Is Masturbation Addictive?
Will Masturbating Make Me Not Want Sex From My Partner?
Wednesday, January 17, 2018
When We Fight
Thursday, January 11, 2018
Wednesday, January 10, 2018
IntroductionI had intended to write a single post on this subject but as I did more research, and had more conversations with people, I realized this topic is much deeper than I had initially thought.
Friday, January 5, 2018
Over the last few months I’ve listened to about ten books covering human sexuality and the psychology of desire. We humans, both male and female have these parallel desires for what we want romantically and what we want sexually. Women seek the strong, confident, protector but we also want him to be caring and cater to our needs. Both sides are usually never found in the same man. It’s always nice guy Vs. asshole. Usually what happens is that we find someone who is mainly either alpha or beta male with just enough of the other characteristics that we can make it work. In my opinion, this leaves us vulnerable to future indiscretions with those males who embody the characteristics our partner lacks. Therefore, non-monogamy is helpful because then you are never putting all of your needs onto one person. But that is a whole other topic for another time.
Men also have a dual desire. A Madonna/whore complex in which they look for the virtuous Madonna to raise their children and be a faithful partner to them for at least as long as it takes to make sure their genetics are passed along successfully to the next generation. Men also desire the whore, the woman that they can be their true deviant sexual selves with without fear of rejection and judgment. As I have been discovering these things about our dual desires I have been given the very unexpected opportunity to watch this play out right in front of my eyes.
I have had a unique relationship with a man for several years. He is much older, powerful, exceptionally intelligent, and one hell of an alpha. This relationship isn’t what I would call an affair or merrily just a friendship. I couldn’t really classify it as friends with benefits either. Maybe we could call it a friendship with a very sexual nature yet never fully consummated. Like I said, it was and I guess still is unique.
Over the last few months, this man I admired so much became infatuated with another woman. This isn’t something that should have bothered me as there was never anything romantic between us and because we are both married I never really wanted there to be. But it did bother me and it bothered me that it bothered me. Why did I care? This other woman is basic in her looks and below basic in her personality yet he became completely lost in the thought of her. He would constantly tell me that I am so strong, and smart and this other woman is so weak and fragile. I couldn’t figure out why he would say those things. How is weak better than strong? Why would any man especially a man like this want someone weak? Well, because she is the Madonna and I am the whore. He doesn’t need to protect me or save me because I’m strong and as the alpha he needs to be needed. He needs to be that hero that I just don’t need. Problem is, yes, I’m strong and smart and basically a bitch but because of that, sexually I crave that alpha dominance because that is the only situation where I allow myself to be weak.
This whole episode has bothered me so much because I see this alpha man I needed as someone above me, someone I would allow to have control over me, turning into this softer, weaker beta man who has no control over anything anymore.
As I’m watching this man that was once something I needed slip away into something else, I also watch fascinated at the lengths men will go to in order to satisfy their own needs sexual or not. They will risk everything, family, friends, career, all in the pursuit of that which makes them feel like a real man. Even when in reality, the manhood they are chasing is that of a boy.
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